Discover a New Way to Love
a weekend workshop for

Discover a New Way to Love is based on the best selling book, Getting the Love You Want, by Dr. Harville Hendrix. It is an intensive, practical workshop for couples packed with information and skills to discover and create the joy and potential of being together.

This workshop brings into awareness your unconscious defense mechanism resulting from forgotten childhood hurts. These insights and the safety you will learn to create will help you dissolve the barriers that block you and your partner from enjoying the many wonderful benefits of a nurturing and caring relationship. You will learn ways to heal and grow as your relationship deepens through a better understanding of each other as individuals, which will lead you to increased trust and safety, greater compassion, pleasure, and real love.

This workshop will benefit you if...

  • you want to enrich a good relationship
  • you are just beginning a relationship you want to keep
  • you are in a difficult relationship and want to resolve longstanding conflicts
  • you have been in a relationship for a long time and want to revitalize it
  • you are near breakup or divorce and want to decide if the relationship can be saved

Your participation will give you...

  • greater patience, understanding, and compassion for yourself and your partner
  • an understanding that the unconscious forces that attract you to your partner are also the source of conflict
  • awareness of how to use your relationship for mutual healing and fulfillment
  • new communication skills to break destructive cycles of relating
  • ideas for re-establishing the connection and excitement of your early time together

You will learn...

  • how to get to the root of your problems and dissolve them
  • how to turn daily frustrations into vehicles for growth and change
  • how to harness the energy of conflict to make your relationship stronger
  • how to move from automatic reaction to deliberate action
  • how to become your partner's best friend and healer
  • how to successfully communicate your own desires
  • how to express you love and appreciation in ways that touch your partner's heart
  • how to create fun, romance, passion, and intimacy

This psycho-educational workshop includes: lectures, guided imagery, written exercises, demonstrations, working alone in your workbook, and practicing the processes with your partner. While couples are invited to participate and to build a supportive group atmosphere, they are not pressured into unwelcome self-disclosure. The workshop emphasizes partners sharing with each other. Except for a brief introduction and some closing words, you will not need to share with the larger group unless you so choose.

Confidentiality is emphasized in order to create a safe and comfortable environment. Support therapists are available to help explain the exercises and to provide assistance when needed. Two workbooks are provided for your use during and after the workshop.

Comments About the Couples Weekend

"The weekend workshop gave us intensive experience with relationship activities – more so than with one hour sessions where we deal with a single issue at a time. The momentum was beneficial."

"Hands-down the most effective couples therapy we’ve experienced. I can’t believe we wasted all that time and money on the “refereed argument” method!!"

"This workshop will not only improve my marriage, but help me better understand and become more comfortable with myself, my family, and my friends."

"It's one of the best investments my partner and I have made -- not just for the sake of our relationship, but for our individual selves."

"I feel this workshop will really be beneficial to our relationship now and long term. The serious work was well blended with fun that promoted intimacy."

"This weekend was exactly what I needed to help me gain some peace and perspective as well as some skills as I go through a very difficult time with my partner."

"Very helpful in providing tools for problem solving. Excellent. Worth the cost. One-to-one assistance outstanding."

"I was able to see myself and my partner with new eyes. That’s a miracle!"

"I found it very helpful to learn how to cope with problems and fears before we actually encounter them since we are in a new relationship."

"This workshop has more tools for truly transforming a couple's interactions than 20 self-help manuals or years of traditional therapy. The skills taught are a basis for life-long growth and understanding of one another."

"This weekend was a great way to focus on getting our relationship on track. It's nice to make our relationship such a priority and have the time, emotional energy, and support to work on us."

"I appreciate Carole providing this workshop. I have so much hope that our relationship will be saved. I have had the best weekend with my mate that I have had in the 18 years we have been together."

"Even when you are at the bleakest time of your life, the Imago Couples Weekend is a small shinning light that can help turn your life around and become a brilliant beacon of hope for your relationship."

"I wanted to thank you for your knowledgeable, wise, sensitive and empathic guiding of the weekend workshop. It could easily have been a formulaic and superficial workshop; instead I thought that you helped each relationship to thrive and grow past their present restrictions in a non-threatening, supportive environment. Thanks again for weekend."

Observations by an Imago Therapist
on the Couples Weekend

The time is approaching for another Imago Relationship Weekend Workshop. As Imago therapists, we look forward to these weekends. We are inspired and touched by the transformations that often take place over the weekend. Often times, we wish we had taken before and after photographs. Couples come in tentatively; often with one partner who really wants to be present and one who has agreed with some reluctance. Faces reflect nervousness, shyness, excitement, anxiety…and we know that deep down within, all come with hope. There are new relationships, long established relationships, relationships in crisis and relationships that are well into the healing process. People have heard of the Imago work through friends, family members, therapists, books written by Harville Hendrix and increasingly via the Internet. Many wonder: “How will this go?” “Why is it such a long weekend?” “Will we be asked to expose our problems?” Is it really worth our investment?” We know that all want to feel safe and respected…both in this environment and with each other. This is our challenge as hosts and facilitators.

Wherever the workshop is held, our intention is to create a setting that evokes feelings of welcome, warmth and containment. The aroma of coffee, snacks, background music, the sound of people greeting each other and talking – all these things add to a feeling of comfort. We know that beneath the chatter there may be shattered dreams, feelings of disappointment, anger or resentment or perhaps a feeling that there is “nothing in common” in the relationship anymore. We know that all who are present, workshop participants as well as therapists and presenters, long to find love and meaning in relationship.

The weekend begins. Educational, experiential, humorous and respectful-- the Imago workshop unfolds. Couples have ample opportunity for self-reflection, private dialogue with each other, writing in manuals and sharing, if they are comfortable. Faces begin to be expressive. There are moments of laughter, tears, tenderness and curiosity. Couples huddle together - eye to eye, face to face, knee to knee --- talking, listening, reflecting. We see them willing to climb into each other’s head and look at the world through each other’s eyes. Hearts begin to open; shaming, blaming and criticism decreases. Therapists circulate respectfully -- encouraging, supporting, helping couples find their way back to connection, trust and safety.

On Sunday evening, faces are more open and honest. There is an air of hope. Couples leave with positive intentions, new understandings and communication tools that can help them get the love they want.

by Carla Miller
Imago therapist, Grand Rapids, MI

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